Release frustration from your career & life

Your life is like a butterfly...you go through changes before you become something beautiful.

Do you feel that your career holds out nothing? Is a feeling of disappointment overtaking you? Are you upset at your career? Are you disappointed at not having been able to achieve something that you set out for? If the answer to two or more of these questions is in the affirmative, you are a frustrated person – frustrated with your career.

In today’s world where there are intense competitions and extreme work pressures, frustration is not unusual. And you simply cannot point a finger at anyone for it. Imagine this – one fine evening you return home after a hard day’s work. You contributed your bit and everybody seemed to be happy. The next day was different. You were asked to relocate elsewhere or put up your papers. Well, that is what life and work is all about. But you do not seem to like this; and ponder over how perturbed and discouraged you are. What is the degree of dissatisfaction you are afflicted with? Has frustration subjugated you?   

There is always hostility to change. People resent it purely because they do not appreciate whatever they are experiencing. Such feelings of resentment impair you. You lose sleep and waste time mulling over unnecessary issues; you could well direct your efforts to plan for your future instead. You are unable to alter whatever has happened but want things to change so that the frustration that you are suffering from gets neutralized.

How do you neutralize frustration and make certain that you and your life are in sync? Here is how:

·   Recognize that you are upset:  Despite the feelings of frustration, do you occasionally believe that you need not be afflicted by it? If you recognize the fact that you are frustrated, you no longer are subdued. The cat is out of the bag and there is every possibility that you will attempt to reason things out and free your self of frustration. However, you cannot deny the reality that you have been disturbed and wounded. You wish that things return to normal as hitherto fore. If you feel that way, you stand to gain but, if you keep your feelings bottled up inside you, you will be vanquished forever. Recognizing that you are upset will help you address your frustration. 

·   Come to terms with altered conditions:  You need to identify specific feelings that are overtaking you. Evidently, they will be pertaining to what you have been dispossessed of, what you have not been able to get your hands on and also your accomplishments that have not paid you dividends. You and your feelings are supposedly synonymous; and hence the feelings influence all your actions and achievements. Extraneous factors, to be certain have no role to play. Therefore, if you concentrate on positive aspects, the outcome will be positive also. Musing over downbeat matters invariably result in downbeat developments. Considering the foregoing, you have to decide how you want your career and everything associated with it to unfold for you. Remember that coming to terms with whatever you have and the alterations that you have been subjected to will infuse positive feelings in you. Consequently, you will be better equipped to deal with your career.

·   Contribute to the change:  You never know that the next moment may catapult you into a better situation. You may not know where you are going, but that does not imply that better situations are not lined up for you. Therefore, you should not regard changes as thorny affairs; on the contrary, you should hold on to them. Remember what Mahatma Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” You must act; and this entails charting a roadmap to ensure that you progress. There is no point in brooding over the past; you should look ahead.

·   Regard the adversity as temporary:  You generally remain in work for about four decades and an adverse development constitutes a very miniscule portion of that. Your career will have alternating periods of good and bad. There will always be a light at the end of a tunnel.

To sum up, you should not let the shark eat out of your plate. You should make certain that your past is rendered incapable to define your present; on the contrary, you should utilize it for the creation of a better tomorrow.