There is no
workplace where there is no divergence of views. Because of diversity that
prevails, the principles and convictions that employees harbour are often
conflicting. It is not uncommon for many people to misconstrue differing
viewpoints as personal attacks intended to dent their individual standings. If
that is not perceived, then the other person is seen as a bothersome or
problematic character.
The above
notwithstanding, whenever a conflict situation arises, most of us think that
the Heavens have fallen or are about to fall and take the extreme step of
keeping others out of the scheme of things or decision-making process. The
results are ruinous; we are unable to resolve issues and come out of difficult
situations. So, how do we address conflict?
If there is a
conflict situation, you will always find some people more adept at dealing with
it. There are plusses and minuses on either side of the conflict spectrum.
People who are skilful at handling conflicts have the power to look them
straight into their eyes. But they often bring about unwarranted anxiety and
stress too. Those who want to escape stress by avoiding conflict situations are
bound to be little submissive and possess greater degree of easiness to accept argument
and discord. Such people do not get perturbed by small irritants when there is
divergence of views. They invariably suffer a disadvantage because their
emotions remain bottled up inside them, making situation deteriorate further.
It needs to be
acquiesced that existence of conflict situations is beneficial because you
resolve issues. In the process of resolving issues, we need to be cautious in
expressing our views without disconcerting and flustering others. The issue is
to avoid being jibbed at by others and at the same time be able to sway and
motivate them. You need to be an upbeat knocker. When you work in a team, you
will see people who have a difficult time in putting across their viewpoints.
You will also have people who are at ease doing so; this is the lot who are
upbeat knockers. They possess the requisite attributes and employ the following
prime strategies that always work and make things happen as expected:
· Recognising & appreciating
others: People who have the courage to oppose and
challenge invariably acknowledge the perspectives and standpoints of others. This
they do by giving a patient and focussed hearing; and seeking clarifications
whenever necessary. By doing so, their attentiveness and thoughtfulness is
conveyed. Others do not feel muffled, as a result, great transparency is
achieved and ambiguities, if any, tend to get demolished. And when they make a
point, it is accepted without much hassle.
· Using non-verbal communications to
effect: Words that you speak are important
alright, but your gestures and other non-verbal communications need to be in
sync with them too. Research has shown that while the spoken word is indeed
important, body language is more important. Non-verbal communications convey
views many times more. And when you communicate carefully and diligently, you
connect better. You avoid the risks of being objected to or labelled as a
bulldozer. As a matter of principle, you should refrain from pointing fingers
or any other conduct that could be labelled as offensive conduct. Any increase
in your fretfulness and anxiety levels could raise the concerns of the other
person further; and who may, as a consequence of the foregoing, become more
edgy.
· Speaking when required &
speaking for effect: This calls for knowing when to
speak and what to speak as also when not to speak. Silence is always golden and
it creates an impact. If you avoid speaking much, you portray a good impression
and contribute to make a dialogue meaningful. You simply have to remain calm,
well-poised and unruffled at all times, even when you are making a point.
· Keeping team interests above
everything: Though you may disagree with your team
members, you cannot afford to let your team’s interests suffer. Therefore, your
focus should always be to resolve matters so that your team marches ahead. You
have to act with due diligence and make your opinions acceptable to others.
Though contingent on the prevalent situation, if you succeed in getting
dissidents and grumblers to add on to your concepts and philosophies, a more
integrated outlook will result.
· Respecting others & gaining
respect: It is respect alone that begets respect.
So, if you treat others with reverence and veneration, you will also be
regarded likewise. Treating others with respect calls for displaying a highly
social, concerned and sympathetic attitude.
· Swaying others while asserting
oneself: You need to be able to prevail over others
and this is best attainable if you recognise what they stand for. You need to
listen to them without interrupting and not oppose any point just because it
comes from a person whose ideas are not matching with yours. You will be able
to influence others if, despite differences, you are able to channelize
dialogues towards a common ground.
When you do not
dismiss any opposing view and give credit for a great idea put across, you
position yourself at an advantageous position. You will be able to remonstrate assertively,
but without generating any ill-feelings. And when ill-feelings are absent, your
team’s output increases. Shouldn’t that be your objective?
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